Digging Deep - Need Advice On Motivation

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Digging Deep - Need Advice On Motivation

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Rangers and other board members who'd like to chime in,

My wife is preparing for a 45-day assessment and selection. She has a set PT and diet plan, and at first everything was going great. I participate in the diet and workouts with her 100% of the time, but lately she's started to fall off the wagon. Although she's made great progress, she's starting to self-eliminate and I'm trying to do my best to keep her motivated with all of the other shit she has going on. I know she wants this and I know I can't make her want it anymore than she already does. I just want to give her that push.

My question is this: What would you recommend to help motivate a loved one?
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Outside taking some of the load off her plate, if she doesn't have it in her, she doesn't have it in her.
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When it comes to an assessment and selection process the person doing it has to have the self motivation to continue on when things get tough. If you want to make it, you have to NOT QUIT, it's as simple and as hard as that. The person who makes it, is the person who doesn't quit.
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rangerjd wrote:When it comes to an assessment and selection process the person doing it has to have the self motivation to continue on when things get tough. If you want to make it, you have to NOT QUIT, it's as simple and as hard as that. The person who makes it, is the person who doesn't quit.
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From my experience/view point, motivation is just a temporary thing- she needs more discipline. I think motivation is kind of like a fire, it's there and it's good but it'll eventually go away. Some days will absolutely suck and training will be the last thing you'd ever want to do- do it anyways. I'm no expert by any means but I've read several things regarding motivation and have gained a perspective that I think several people may be missing. The discipline should come naturally if she wants this bad enough; slacking/quitting shouldn't be anywhere near her mind. If she's already starting to self-eliminate before she's even gotten to the selection then she's definitely gotta fix something and I hope that you can help her fix whatever issues may exist.
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CCJ wrote:From my experience/view point, motivation is just a temporary thing- she needs more discipline. I think motivation is kind of like a fire, it's there and it's good but it'll eventually go away. Some days will absolutely suck and training will be the last thing you'd ever want to do- do it anyways. I'm no expert by any means but I've read several things regarding motivation and have gained a perspective that I think several people may be missing. The discipline should come naturally if she wants this bad enough; slacking/quitting shouldn't be anywhere near her mind. If she's already starting to self-eliminate before she's even gotten to the selection then she's definitely gotta fix something and I hope that you can help her fix whatever issues may exist.
Well, I've been off the site for a while and you, CCJ, get the honor of my first post back. You are also lucky that my temper has soothed with age. Basically, you need to check yourself at the door, and allow the vetted members address this topic. You are, what, Nineteen? How dare you say that this man's wife needs "more discipline"! In your experience?? Just what, exactly, in your short nineteen years have you experienced to make you an authority on the subject? Don't answer that. I really don't care what you answer would be. I mean it, don't reply. When you successfully navigate the pipeline to graduate RASP, or some similar crucible, Then you can come to our house and tell people that they lack self discipline.

To pobdietel: Just out of curiosity, what exactly is the assessment/selection for? (Not that it matters) What kind diet plan are you following? Studies have found that rather than trying to change "cold turkey", one should have built in "rewards". I.E. "If I go a week doing x, then I can have y..". It could be anything-a special meal or food, going to a movie, buying something nice for yourself, whatever. As far as the self-elimination? That isn't good, on any level. It really isn't healthy at all. PM inbound.
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CCJ wrote:From my experience/view point, motivation is just a temporary thing- she needs more discipline. I think motivation is kind of like a fire, it's there and it's good but it'll eventually go away. Some days will absolutely suck and training will be the last thing you'd ever want to do- do it anyways. I'm no expert by any means but I've read several things regarding motivation and have gained a perspective that I think several people may be missing. The discipline should come naturally if she wants this bad enough; slacking/quitting shouldn't be anywhere near her mind. If she's already starting to self-eliminate before she's even gotten to the selection then she's definitely gotta fix something and I hope that you can help her fix whatever issues may exist.
Maybe you could show us some of that self discipline you learned in a book and refrain from posting where no one cares about your opinion.
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Sleepy Doc wrote:

To pobdietel: Just out of curiosity, what exactly is the assessment/selection for? (Not that it matters) What kind diet plan are you following? Studies have found that rather than trying to change "cold turkey", one should have built in "rewards". I.E. "If I go a week doing x, then I can have y..". It could be anything-a special meal or food, going to a movie, buying something nice for yourself, whatever. As far as the self-elimination? That isn't good, on any level. It really isn't healthy at all. PM inbound.
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